Who you see on Instagram, read on Substack, come into contact with in my classes and sessions, is exactly who you would find at my kitchen table.
My small chat sucks, I'm highly distractable unless hyperfocused (ADHDc), I have synaptic leaps and uncanny discernment about matters I don't know enough about to be THAT accurate, I'm partially deaf but lip read REALLY well, I love my pooch, walking in the woods, and skipping into the darkness, a smile on my face...
This is me, this is my life.
You are welcome here.
I grew up in Northern Ireland, my ADHD brain primed on fast thinking - mostly to get myself out of the trouble that my
fast mouth got me into.
Learning how to generate my own safety regardless of the circumstances was a skill I learned early on, one that drew all sorts of characters into my life... it would take nearly 4 decades of over-compensating and people pleasing for me to evolve this into a sovereign, reliable safety.
Realising sovereign safety was not an "innate" gift, but a skill I could share, changed my life and unleashed my purpose...
As a human deeply aware that life is short, I don't beat around the bush - I am straight talking, passionate (ranty when necessary) and honest.
I serve your freedom to fulfil your highest purpose.
Aaaand that can be... uncomfortable, sometimes. Yet you will never be in doubt of how profoundly I love and care for you.
I cut through the jargon and BS to deliver simple, effective soul-led wisdom that will resonate with your insides - wisdom that has been alchemised from my life, and decades of studying (both formally and informally) across more disciplines than I care to admit.
However, since you’re reading this then I suppose I ought to admit!
Here comes a list...
My highest value...
Is a combo value, it doesn’t exist without it’s counterpart...
Unconditional love with honest accountability.
I am corny enough to believe love is the highest and strongest of all emotions, but without accountability, unconditional love can be, at best, un-boundaried and at worst, abusive.
It would be lying. No wait - mosquitoes.
I’d rather be savaged by mosquitoes (happens often, I must smell like prime Buffalo arse) than be lied to.
Dishonesty- from “part-truths” to out and out lies - makes my whole body shut down then erupt in an
If you know me, you’ll know!
Walking with my pooch, especially in forests where I can dig my hands into the mulch of the forest floor in wonder (I’ve moved past the human horror of realising trees feed off their own decay…)
Walking in nature is the BEST form of self-care for me.
When my body is moving in nature, my brain is grooving with goodies
for you all!
The light and shadow, the rupture and heal, the raw survival honesty of it speaks to me as a human animal.
If I could ban one thing...
My favourite thing to do...
My eldest son is like a labrador with water and while I was (unusually!) hemming and hawing about going in, he stripped down to his undies, and
went... he was 9.
I remember in that moment the complete awe I felt at his “of course”ness to something my body wanted to do but my brain was talking me out of.
This image reminds me that decisions are made in the body, plans are made in the head… and that it’s always a good idea to carry a change of clothes.
A simple memory I am happy to have captured...
A long, late evening with my family and friends on the beach, hearing the sound of laughter from the children in the distance, feeling warm by the fire and by the abundance and deep comfort of ease-filled friendship...
The peace was soon broken by the aforementioned friends plonking an old (varnished) bed-frame on the fire to dispose of it, covering us all in mucky smoke!
I had words with them.